My IVF Sisters, if you or anyone you know is in need of IVIG, I have access to some at wholesale/hospital pricing. There is currently a severe shortage nationwide.
We had a nice quiet Mother’s Day. We spent the majority of the day at home since we spent the week in Charleston, SC and Charlotte, NC.
Baby girl wanted her favorite soup so we ate dinner at Carrabbas and she enjoyed Chicken Sicilian Soup.
My mom had a great Mother’s Day, as baby girl and I purchased her a new car. She got the car when we had it delivered two weeks ago, but she is still blown away. She has had her eye on an Audi A4 quattro for a while because her A6 is too big for her now. She does not really drive so I do not know why she kept making noise about a car ! The baby has claimed the car as “her car !” Lol
We also gave my mom a book with African Proverbs, a cute mom tee, and a candle from White Barn.
I got nice gifts (that I picked out) from my baby. I got clothing from J Crew, candles from White Barn, a new Samsung Galaxy S10+, a 128 GB iPad, and a turmeric facial polish I wanted.
I also got a faux mink throw from my godmother.
I got calls and texts of well wishes all day from everyone, with the exception of my “no longer” coparenting ex-friend. That is a whole other post ! Lol. His mother reached out to me for the first time in 2.5 years and wished me a Happy Mother’s Day and to state that she and her family want to meet the baby and be an active part of her life. That was really sweet and we will be traveling to NY soon so that they can meet baby girl in person. They have pictures of her over her life but have not met her in person.
Baby girl and I are spending the morning watching shows I DVR’d since I fell asleep early last night. I am sure a few episodes of Peppa Pig will be thrown in there lol.
I was prepared to love unconditionally, without hesitation. What I did not anticipate was how true the saying I heard my own mom say over and over, “having a child is like having your heart walk around outside your body”, would become in my own life.
Disappointed… Heartbroken… Pissed… In Mourning…
All of those things I feel all at once.
How I found out? The intended surrogate posted a jokey type post on Facebook announcing that she was not getting fat, but was pregnant. Since it is April, I thought maybe it was an April Fool’s prank.
Yesterday, I decide to text her and ask if she were joking or truly pregnant. After three long hours had passed, she responds, Yes 🤦🏾♀️ lol.
WTF do you mean LOL?
Over a year ago, this woman, who is 28 with three children, offered to be my surrogate after hearing me lament about the fact that I can not carry another child and that my sisters were physically unable to. She volunteered to be my surrogate and I happily accepted the offer. I told her that I would be ready in 2019. We have discussed all the particulars and as early as a month ago, we agreed that she would start the IVF process in September and transfer one embryo at a time. I have four eggs on ice and whatever embryos result will be what we have to work with.
I explained in detail what the process would look like for her and she was even excited about gifting me this opportunity to have a sibling for my daughter. She joked that she would have “our” baby by Summer and get her body back.
I am beyond livid ! And to add insult to injury, she attempts to deflect and gaslight me and say she is offended that I am not happy about her “unexpected blessing.” I am sorry but, four babys, three or four baby daddy’s, and the prospect of another welfare check is NOT an effing blessing. At what point do you grow up and become responsible for yourself, your body, and your family?
As mad as I am because an entire year has been wasted that could have been spent searching for a surrogate and that was wasted planning and preparing for another child, I must also realize that God will block anything that is not for me.
The last thing I want is my child coming through the spirit of a broken, promiscuous, child in a grown woman’s body !
I am hurt that all of my dreams of a future with my daughter and a sibling just got flushed down the drain.
I can not imagine being broke and just tossing away the opportunity to put $10,000 in my pocket for me and my children over a few moments of pleasure. She has said numerous times that she is very fertile. She knew better ! I assume she popped up pregnant trying to tie a man down. Newsflash, that NEVER works !
Obviously, the “no sex” or “no unprotected sex” clause which would have been in the contract in effort to protect my unborn child would have been ignored. For an unmarried surrogate, this would have been a requirement.
I honestly know I should accept this as a blessing in disguise, but my heart will not let me at this moment. I am angry and irritated. I feel duped and used. I absolutely hate putting faith and trust into someone only to be let down.
Now, I have to start this impossible search all over again ! Agencies are ridiculous and I am not spending another $100,000 to get a child.
It looks like my daughter may be an only child and I will be forced to destroy my remaining eggs. I am very grateful for my daughter, do not get me wrong. She has been asking me for sister for weeks now, thanks to an episode of Peppa Pig and also some other show she is infatuated with.
My heart is broken not only for me, but because I wanted my child to have a sibling and not be alone in this world…
Infertility problems are surprisingly common, in fact, estimates that at least 10% of the female population have difficulty getting or staying pregnant – meaning, that more than 7 million women are alone facing fertility issues.
Regrettably, women are not the only ones who may additionally experience infertility issues. This issue affects both men and women on an equal level among couples experiencing infertility, kind of 35 percent is because of the male, while any other 35 percent is due to the woman. Every other 20 percent is a combination of both male and female factors, and the final 10 percent is unknown.
However, there are now some alternative therapies are at the upward thrust for helping with infertility issues. One of the popular therapies is CBD. This terrific cannabinoid has profound effects on fertility, greater of which is listed below;
What is CBD and What does it do?
CBD or cannabidiol has more than 40% of the extract of cannabis plants and is easily accessible. Used for the treatment of anxiety, seizures, PTSD, and leukaemia.
CBD is also used to ease pain during contractions, According to a study done by the Journal of the Society for Reproduction & Fertility. However, how useful is CBD for male and female fertility and IVF and how safe is its use is what we were going to find in this article?
CBD And Male Fertility
Infertility is a common problem faced by couples in today’s society. However, women are not the only one being affected by it. According to a study done on couples experiencing infertility, 35% were due to problems in men, 35% were due to problems in women, 20% were due to the combined problem in men and women whereas the 10% problems were unknown. Hence before trying to find solutions for infertility, one must find out the cause of the problem and then consult their doctors.
A research study conducted by doctors at the Ruhr University, Germany provides evidence that there is an active link between CBD and male fertility. The endocannabinoid system (ECS) in our body plays a huge part in fertility. It is a regulatory system which looks over almost every metabolism in our body. One of the systems in our body governed by ECS is the reproductive system. When CBD is administered into the body, it helps ECS to work more efficiently and smoothly.
Studies also suggest that the use of THC may stunt the sperm maturation process and impact the testosterone level adversely whereas the same is not right for CBD. It is observed that the use of CBD helps in the acrosome reaction which is the process of fusing of sperm into the plasma membrane and then entering the female egg for its fertilisation. Use of CBD is thought to allow the sperm to enter the female egg and fertilise it effectively. However, the research done in this field is not enough and need more attention. However if more studies in this area were conducted, then CBD can prove to be a significant breakthrough in helping to solve the different fertility issues.
CBD, Female Fertility and IVF Treatment
CBD works differently on the male and the female body. In women, it not only helps in getting women pregnant but as mentioned above, also helps in the delivery of the child. In a few cases, it is seen that if a woman used too much THC in her early months of pregnancy, CBD could be used to reduce its effect on their foetus and their bodies.
Studies have also shown THC to have the adverse effect on implantation, conceiving and ovulation, but with CBD, promising results have been discovered. Even though the research studies done in this area are slim, it is seen that CBD can help to reduce pain, inflammation, seizures, anxiety, spasms and much more.
CBD is an effective method of getting pregnant in cases of male as well as female fertility problems. It does not have any side effect like THC and actually can be used to reduce the side effects done on the body by THC. Not only can it be used to increase the chances of being pregnant, but also helpful throughout pregnancy and in relieving contraction pain.
Wishing you all the best, excellent health and generational wealth in 2019 !
My mother, my daughter and I went on an 8 day Caribbean cruise to Turks & Caicos, Dominican Republic, Curacao and Aruba with my sister friend, Sharon, and her family.
We spent the week before the cruise departed in South Beach, Miami.
Albeit chaotic the first day, the cruise was a lot of fun. I have never seen so much food nor as many morbidly obese people in one place before in my life !
Here are a few pictures from our trip. We will be flying back to the condo at the beach tonight.