Three Months Post Partum – The 411

Today, my angel celebrates 13 weeks/ three months on Earth !

Can you believe three months have gone by already?  Time slow down !

My baby cooes and seemingly says”hi” sometimes when we say is to her.  She is the sweetest, most delightful baby ever.  I am beyond in love with this child and I swear she is an angel in the flesh.

She wakes up and smiles at me and it melts my heart.  

I know I said I was not here for co-sleeping but I can’t help myself.  I spent $600 on a custom baby bassinet from Bratt Decor and she does use it during the day but at night, I want her next to me so I can watch her sleep and I love when she follows me in the bed.  I guess she loves body heat !

Parenting Fail:

I happened to read the side of her formula can and it dawned on me that I have been making her formula incorrectly the last several weeks.  I used 1 scoop per 1 oz of water instead of 2 oz of water !  oh em gee !

I don’t know how I did that and am just now catching it.  I have been making 3 oz bottles and making it with 3 scoops.  Thank God she only does 2-3 bottles and is given mostly breast milk.   She didn’t really like the formula and now we know why. After I started making it correctly, she drinks it without a fight.

Grandmom News:

My mother is doing well.  Her wound is almost closed now. She is feeling a lot better and is seeing her therapist weekly again for mortality induced PTSD.  She is doing a lot better since we forced her to ask her doctor to put her on sick leave until the end of December.  Her blood pressure has dropped to 120 over 80. It hasn’t been this low in years !

Mommy News:

I am down 65 pounds since giving birth.  I am doing well and mommy exhaustion has set in.  My mother started taking the baby some nights so I can sleep.

Since my MUA passed away a week ago, I have had trouble sleeping.  I miss him immensely.  His husband and family are planning his memorial service after the holidays. I had hoped it would be done now so we can grieve and start to heal.  

We are enjoying life at the beach.  I put up a Christmas tree for the baby in her room and am working on the big 8 ft tree in the living room this weekend.

Eleven Weeks Post Partum – The 411

It has been 11 weeks since we welcomed Baby Girl into the world !

She is fat, fluffy, and such a delight. She can now hold her head up and keep it in line with her body when  being held upright.   She turns her head to look for me when she hears my voice.  She loves tummy time and at long last she enjoys her bath.

At current, she still averages 3 to 4 ounces of milk at a time. She drinks 14-28 ounces in a given day but on average, she drinks about 22 ounces a day.

The baby is laughing out loud now and coos when you talk to her and flashes the biggest smile.

I am beyond in love with her and am excited to spend Christmas with her.

Mommy News:

I am down 64 pounds since giving birth and will continue to work on my body.  I plan to walk a few miles a day on the beach and continue with a low carb high protein high fat diet.   

The feeling around my incision is starting to come back and it feels weird.

My milk supply has dropped quite a bit since the clogged ducts.  I have pumped only 10 oz the last several days.   I’m not going to stress about it.  She has been sleeping a lot over the past week and has been drinking about 14 oz total so she is still getting more breast milk than organic formula.  We are in DC for the holiday and I will spend more time trying to pump every other hour when we get back to try to get the supply up.   I also started taking the motilium again now that the clogged ducts are gone.

Grandmom News:

My mother is doing well.  Her wound is almost closed now !  Other than nausea, she feels pretty good.

Ten Weeks Post Partum – The 411


Friday marked 10 weeks since I gave birth to the most perfect creature God every created.  My baby girl is growing by leaps and bounds.  She is now over 11 pounds !  She is truly my little chunk munk.  Her cheeks look inflated and she has tons of fat rolls.  I am constantly cleaning dust bunnies out of her fat rolls on her neck, legs, and under her arms.

At 10 weeks, my baby now laughs, giggles and smiles.  She also attempts to talk back when you are  talking to her… she coos and smiles !

The baby is still sleeping most of the day and night.  She awakes in 4-5 hour stretches to eat and get a diaper change.  She usually stays awake for no more than an hour or she goes right back to sleep after her tummy is full.  She drinks on average 3 oz of milk at a time.  She is still drinking breast milk and supplementing with Earth’s Best Organic Sensitivity Formula.  Because I had more clogged ducts, she has been drinking more formula this week than breast milk because my supply dropped and I didn’t take Motilium while the ducts were clogged because it causes worse pain.  It was my fault because I got busy and did not pump and then went to bed after pumping once and slept all night until the baby woke up at 5 am.  I woke up to pain !

My mom watched a bunch of Youtube videos and figured out how to assemble her Stokke Xplory stroller with the carrycot attachment.  It has been a bit cool except 2 days so I have not taken her out on the beach for a walk yet.  I went out yesterday for a quick jog and froze !

I have started back cooking and baking now that we are back at the condo and I have my kitchen stocked with all the gadgets I love.

Eight Weeks Post Partum – The 411

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We have made it through eight weeks !  Eight weeks of amazing, unconditional love.  Eight weeks of figuring out schedules.  Eight weeks of trying to get adequate sleep.  Eight weeks of awe….

My daughter is pure perfection !  Well, sans the occasional witching hours lol.  Since changing her supplemental formula to Earth’s Best Organic Sensitivity, the gas, colic, and fussiness has subsided. I am still pumping exclusively.

My baby seems to love tummy time and has a really strong neck.  She holds her head up for quite a while and looks around.  My mom bought her a light thingy that reflects stars and the moon on the wall and ceiling.  She is infatuated with it !

She has started moving when she is in the bed.  She will move towards me when we nap. She loves body heat !   It is the cutest thing ever.  She just scoots back and over.

Another milestone we reached a few weeks ago that she is doing a lot more of is smiling and cooing.  She smiles so hard at us when we talk to her, especially in high pitched tones.

I am not looking forward to the baby’s vaccines  😦

Seven Weeks Postpartum- The 411

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My gorgeous girl (and I know no parent should ever boast about this type of thing, but I am completely objective !  lol)  is 7 weeks old.  This past week was a bit challenging due to a bit of colic.  I called her doctor and demanded to change her formula I am supplementing with to Earth’s Best Organic Sensitivity Formula and it has made ALL the difference !  The baby’s poop is normal now.  There is not a lot of trapped gas anymore and the baby is letting them rip ! (embarrassingly so !)

I am still exclusively pumping and I have not gotten another clogged duct (knock on wood) and I am pumping on average 5 to 7 ounces per pump.   I am still taking Motilium and will continue to do so. I am not yet sure how long I plan to continue pumping but I am hoping to continue until she is at least six months old.  Once we start her on homemade, organic food, I will more than likely stop pumping and only give her the Earth’s Best formula until she weans to organic whole milk.

Baby girl had her first professional photo shoot for a local photography studio this week.  Above is a sneak peek !

Mommy News:

My incision is completely closed now and it you can not even tell that I was cut open !  I am amazed at Dr. P’s work !  I wish she had suctioned the excess fat out and pulled that skin down then I would be A OKAY !  lol

I am feeling terrific and am down 54 pounds. I look great and am pleased with my body except my ass is gone!  Oh well… squats are on the menu now 🙂

Grandmomma / My Momma News:

My mother is doing a lot better.  She is still hooked up to wound vac and hopefully will be getting it off in the morning at the surgeon appointment.  We are headed to NYC on Monday so that I can vote and then the baby and I have doctor appointments this week too.  I have to check my post office box and then get a slice of pizza.  My mom was a bit sick for the past week so I took her to her PCP.  He determined that the infection was not 100% gone and he started giving her injection antibiotics.  She went back today for more blood work and she is now in the clear.

How your baby’s growing

Your baby’s brain is expanding in size and complexity. It will grow about 5 centimeters during the first three months.

You may notice short periods of time when your newborn is quiet and alert. This is prime time for learning. Use these calm intervals to get better acquainted with your baby – talk to her, sing to her, describe the pictures on the walls. She may not be able to add to your conversation just yet, but she’s absorbing language.

New textures, sights, and sounds are all learning opportunities. Even bath time becomes a laboratory for understanding the world around her.

Reaching out

Your baby’s hands should be mostly open now — ready to reach out to the world. In the early days of your baby’s life, grabbing was mostly automatic and instinctual and she couldn’t let go if she wanted to. Although she can’t really grab objects just yet, she can hold things placed in her hands. And, once she wraps her hands around something, she might not let go so easily. She’ll also begin to try and bat at objects, so keep potentially dangerous objects far from your little one’s reach. This means not holding hot liquids or sharp objects while you’re holding her.

Learning begins now

You may notice short periods of time when your newborn is quiet and alert. This is prime time for learning: Your baby’s brain will grow about 5 centimeters during her first three months!

Use these calm intervals to get better acquainted with your baby — talk to her, sing to her, describe the pictures on the walls. She may not be able to add to your conversation just yet, but she’s learning nonetheless.

New textures for her hands to feel and new sights and sounds (all in moderation) are all learning opportunities. Even bath time becomes a laboratory for understanding life.

Eyes can track objects

With both eyes now able to follow things consistently and well, your baby can track a moving object much better, something she may have been able to do for only brief periods since birth.

The stores are packed with developmental toys, but you’ll do just as well with everyday objects. Pass a rattle or a bright plastic ladle horizontally in front of her. Then try moving it up and down. This should attract your baby’s attention, though she probably won’t be able to smoothly follow things vertically for another three months and diagonally for another six months.

You can also play eyes-to-eyes by moving very close to her face and slowly nodding your head from side to side. Often her eyes will lock onto yours.

Remember, your baby is an individual

All babies are unique and meet milestones at their own pace. Developmental guidelines simply show what your baby has the potential to accomplish — if not right now, then soon. If your baby was premature, keep in mind that kids born early usually need a bit more time to meet their milestones. If you have any questions at all about your baby’s development, ask your healthcare provider.

The Painful Blocked Milk Ducts! – The 411

So, I wake up yesterday feeling like someone inflated my boobs and immediately feeling sorry for not having gotten my butt up and pumped !  

I had a hard , wedge shaped lump in my left breast and it HURT!

I called Jennifer, my lactation  consultant, and left her a detailed message and then hopped on FB to ask in the Mom groups what I could do before I cut that boob smooth off !

My lactation consultant text me saying to take Motrin every four hours and use cold compresses between pumping.  Um….. I . cant..pump..while..in..pain!My friend in the FB group told me to shower with hot water, dangle my boobs to help create pressure while massaging and then put cabbage leaves on the breast for about two hours to dislodge the blockage.   Low and behold, it worked !  I had to pump twice and then poof !  Tons of milk poured out !  I filled two cylinders and 1/2 a 5 oz Medela bottle very quickly once the milk flowed.  It still hurt.  I made sure I pumped every 3 hours the rest of the day. 

After doing some reading, I learned that wearing tight clothing, ie. the sports bra I wore to bed because my nursing tanks were in the washing machine, was the culprit .  I didn’t want to sleep bra-less because I would surely wake up soaked.  

I also slept instead of waking to pump at 3 am.   Bad choices !

Lesson learned !

Lactation Consultant – Two Hour Class – The 411

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Because no one properly taught me to latch my baby while I was in the hospital for FIVE NIGHTS and I have been exclusively pumping, I researched and found a top lactation consulting firm, Premier Lactation Services , and called and hired them to help me with my breastfeeding woes.

The company has only RN-BSNs who come out to your home and start with a two hour class and assessment.

My nurse, Jennifer, came today and we started with an assessment of my breasts, medical history, current meds etc.  She said my breasts look great for making milk and they will work with me to increase my supply and get the baby latched.  I am currently making enough milk to exclusively feed the baby breast milk instead of having to supplement with formula.  If I can stay at home long enough to get my eight pumps in per day !

I have had to go to the ER daily for wound care. Now that my incision has pretty much healed to the point that it does not have to be packed any longer, my health insurance is almost done with processing my out of network request for home health care !  Go figure !!

Today, we got the baby latched right away, as she knows exactly what to do and goes for it and we have discovered that the baby wants immediate flow like with the bottle.  I was given a 1 ounce syringe with a long tube on it that slides under my nipple shield and the baby can suck the milk out and it mimics nursing, until the baby is able to cause let down.  She has a great suction, but she, like most preemies, tucker out and will not work for the milk.  By using the SNS method, the baby will have to suck and I control the milk flow, which encourages her to latch the nipple and not be bottle dependent.

The nurse gave me Lecithin to help thin out my colostrum so that the baby has an easier time getting the milk to flow quicker so she doesn’t get discouraged.  I was also given Fenugreek to take as well to increase milk production.  My goal is to pump 25 ounces a day and continue to build from there.  The baby needs 15 ounces per day to grow properly and she should be eating eight times a day at minimum.  I was given a list of meds that my OB can prescribe if need be, but we are going to start here and see if I can get my supply where it needs to be.

In other news:  My mother is still in the hospital and has a staph infection.  The infection was found in the fluid that pooled in her abdomen that collected when the drains were removed.  They now have her hooked up to some kind of machine that drains the fluid and they discard it.  The machine is attached some kinda way up under her skin and the hoses have to be removed and the machine and area has to be cleaned every so many days.  When she is allowed to come home they will send her home with a skilled nurse.